LETTING GO

LETTING GO

Okay this one is going to be hard to write. Remember how I mentioned in my previous blog that you should just let go and start over? Well it's not that easy, I'm not saying that you shouldn't but that it's going to be very rough on you. There are a lot of reasons that lead us into taking the wrong decisions which at the end turns into hardship for us and we are eventually succumbed to defeat. 

See, the thing about letting go isn't just that it's hard, it's about leaving all those memories, people and priorities behind. Nobody, trust me nobody can ever feel what you feel when you go through a rough patch in your life. Yes you have your people for sympathies and pep talks but the thing is, for how long? How long will you be dependent on those people? They have a life too, nobody will hold your hand forever and help you get through. It's only for the time being when you really are in a mess and in need of help, that's where your friends and family drops in holds your hand and pulls you out. But again, for how long? 

You need to realize that at the end of the day you will be responsible for own life, for your own mistakes. You can't always blame other people for whatever they put you through. But you are one who needs to take a decision whether or not you're willing to move on. So make up your mind and get going with it, only you can fix your life. The only thing your loved ones can do is help but you're the only one who can help yourself in reality. You need to build yourself that strong that you can take up against the world and not let regret or guilt bring you down. 

Yes there is a totally different side to it, which is the evil side. Once you're on your own it doesn't mean that you wake up the devil in you and go for vengeance. That is wrong on so many levels, you don't need to ruin other people's lives just because you suffered. That wouldn't even mean that you've let go of your past, it would only mean that you're still holding on to it. That is not an acceptable way to work your energy out of all the mess, it would only make things worse. Vengeance and hatred are the worst emotions you could ever come across. They'll do you no good but make you feel miserable and you'd want to eat your own flesh out. You'll come across depression, loneliness, drugs that will only lead you to a slow torturous death. And God forbid, if you've crossed all levels and lost all your patience then suicide. That's the worst part of not letting go of your past.

Burying the hatchet is what will make you feel better. Change yourself, your environment. Put all that energy into doing something productive. Try to keep yourself busy doing the stuff which you always wanted to do but never did due to the reasons that held you back. Make yourself the bigger person and let it all go. Trust me when I say this, I know it's hard, it's very very hard but it's all worth it. Free yourself from all that hardship, it will only do good to you. You'll feel free and lively, it'll almost feel like someone lifted a huge weight off your chest. 

When nothing else works out, all your efforts go unseen, nobody gives a bull, you're not treated the way you're supposed to, all those sacrifices and compromises go down the drain, all you're only left with is pain and suffering? Then sweetie, it's time to let go. If it was all worth it you would've known. Don't waste your time, energy and life on people who don't want you in their life. Make your life better, make yourself a better person. If change is what you need to overcome all this then go ahead with it. But always remember, learning from your mistakes is what makes you stronger for future. Don't let go of the experience from the past, let go of the past.

I'm not a Grey's Anatomy fan but I'm sure this might help.

"Change. We don't like it. We fear it, but we can't stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. It hurts to grow, anybody who tells you it doesn't is lying, but here's the truth sometimes the more things change the more they stay the same. And sometimes, oh, sometimes change is good. Sometimes change is everything."

-Meredith Grey

"Who gets to determine when the old ends and the new begins? It’s not on the calendar, it’s not a birthday, it’s not a new year. It’s an event, big or small, something that changes us. Ideally, that gives us hope, a new way of living and looking at the world, a way of letting go of old habits, old memories. What's important is that we never stop believing we can have a new beginning, but it's also important to remember that, amid all the crap, there are a few things worth holding on to."

-Meredith Grey